Opinions needed?

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Sometimes it's brutal honesty.  Other times, it verifies the thoughts in your head.  We all react differently to it.  I was asked an opinion of something today, and when I gave it, I was told how wrong I was and I didn't understand.  That's fine, but if you didn't want my answer, on how it appears, then why ask?  In the end result, I felt like a bad guy, even if I only said what I was thinking.  I'm sorry if my opinion is not what you wanted, or if I'm wrong.  I gave my opinion on facts that I knew. I may be wrong, which isn't first time nor will it be the last.  I can only go on what I know. 


On another hand, I made a comment to a friend of mine, and she gave me a brutally honest assessment of it (which happened to be quite in favor of me) but then I shrugged it off, because I didn't believe it.  I didn't intentionally mean to solicit this opinion, but perhaps I was by my phrasing.  I am usually one of the most self deprecating persons that I know, but on the other end I must accept that people may think higher of me than I think of myself.

I try to to make of everything with a grain a salt, not getting too high or too low.  Recently, I admit the lows have been more prevalent.  I am lucky to have a wife who tries to keep me steady and is willing to show me brutal honesty when I'm being obnoxious, cranky, stressed or overtired (Seemingly all of lately)  In self reflection, and overall reflection, it becomes obvious.  Opinions are only good if we hear what we want to hear, no matter what.  If you think poorly of yourself, nothing will change that.  If you believe you are right and just, then the other person is wrong, no matter what.  If they agree with you, then you are right all long.  In one's own mind, the opinion is worthless truly.  While we say we want the truth, the truth is we want everyone to see what we see.


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